Ambassador at Large

Ambassador at Large

North Korea trauma

The culture shock that destroys children's identity

May 21, 2026
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In North Korea: “I had never been asked who I was or how I felt. Your [only] value is in how much you contribute to the group”.

Arriving in South Korea: “I felt I would have to live my whole life alone”

This week:

  • North Korean escapees, “defectors” in Seoul, building diplomatic relations with Pyongyang

  • latest update on 10 short diplomacy programmes

  • train at the European Parliament; become a fellow in Reykjavik

“I felt myself to be a ‘conditional I’: someone accepted only if part of your identity remains invisible.”

In the early 2000s, posted to Seoul, I made a series of visits to North Korea to establish diplomatic relations from about zero.

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